How It Ended For Me, My Happy Ending

I actually took a month off from dating while I was reading these books and working on myself. I wanted to make sure I had an accurate idea of what I wanted and wanted to take the time to be sure that I could get it so that I projected and attracted exactly this.

At the end of this month, I felt really good about myself and the process and I relaxed a lot more. I vowed to just let whatever was supposed to happen. I realized that I'd been hanging on way too tight. My life was pretty good, so why was I causing myself stress with all this pressure? And, I didn't want to put out the "desperation vibes" that could scare a good man away.

I decided to use what I had learned when the opportunity presented itself and just have fun in the process. Well, I did have a few false starts with a few guys, but I wasn't trying that hard, I knew what I wanted, and I knew I deserved happiness and wasn't going to settle for anything less. So, when these relationships didn't take off, it didn't deter me at all.

One day, I was hanging out at a place that I loved (but where I never tried to meet men - I often went there to just chill) when in walked the man who is now my soul mate.

And, as the books said, I knew it pretty quickly. And guess what? It wasn't hard at all.

I didn't have to "act" into him.

I didn't wear a facade or try too hard. I didn't have to focus on what signals I was sending out because he just elicited genuine feelings in me that were obvious.

I didn't have to pretend I was someone that I was not.

Because he is exactly what I truly deep down wanted, I am automatically my best self around him as I am genuinely interested in him, his experiences, and his happiness.

(Interestingly, he is sort of a mix between my two previous types. He was a "bad boy" in his younger life, but today he's a responsible, successful, caring guy who I know is going to make a great husband and father.) His name is Josh and I adore him to my core.

We have been dating for a year and a half and got engaged on Valentine's Day. He is 100% worth the considerable wait. It just gelled. And it has been fantastic. I am so grateful I took the time to educate myself about who I am and where I was going wrong.

When you think about it, I put more effort into researching buying a toaster than I did in finding a life partner and this is just silly.

Please believe me when I say that you DO NOT HAVE TO SETTLE and YOU DO NOT HAVE TO PLAY GAMES OR PUT ON AN ACT.

Really take the time to define what you want and identify the patterns you are probably repeating over and over. I promise if you do this, the rest will fall into place and you can be happier than you've ever imagined.

Both of the books I talked about offer freebies that will get you well on your way. (Amy Waterman offers a six day free ecourse with quizzes and exercises that are excellent, and Nicole Miller offers a list of the top five mistakes women make that almost always kill a relationship.) I'm out of room on this first blog page, so if you want to read about or get more info on these, click here.